NO & YES

it is very easy to say a no. you do not have to actually say the word no itself, but..

the things that  you do,
the response that you give,
the attitude you show,
the behaviour you potray...

will actually resemble your no~

sometimes i wonder, is it that difficult to do something out of your will for the good of others. yes you may think that why should you suffer or put yourself in hot soup for another person or another group's sake, but why not?

why not?
is it that painful or difficult?
we are all in the same position, in the same situation, but why is it that it has an exception?
the moment you say you cannot, is the moment where you start to fail. in each of us, theres a potential in us. but that potential will not just bump out automatically. it needs a medium, and its you.
you can do it but you choose not to....
you are capable to perform it but you feel so dependable....
you know the job well but you choose to ignore it..

the question comes to you..

what do you care?
it is my potential and i choose whether to unleash it or not?

but do think of this..

the deeper you lock yourself in that potential supposedly to wait for the perfect time, the harder you shall find it difficult to make it obvious...

sacrificing something for another despite of your own lack of potentials is something that very few are able to do. however those who are able to do it are the ones who has actually unleashed their own potentials.
let it be 1% but the fact is you did what you was told to do. you knew your limits and you went above all. you  knew your incapabilities but you chose to ignore it and put your best forward.that is what i call,

unlocking your potetial....

if one is able to sing and you can only rhyme
if one is able to draw a potrait and you can only draw shapes
if one is able to prepare gourmet dishes and you can only fry eggs
if one is able to write a book and you can only write a paragraph....


never feel small or litlle..because that very small effort you manged to do and show despite knowing that you would not be able to be an artiste, an artist, a chef, and an author is the largest deed and sacrifice you could do without a no~

NO is only for those who believes in their own capabilities and not willing to move an inch further
but
a YES is for those who understands their incapabilities and yet try to do their very best!

i need your smile, laughter & hope

thinking over about the past is something that almost everyone have in common. we think of the what have done. we think of how it caused people to think in the way now. we think of things and of objects. we think of memories and dreams. we think of almost everything.

ironically the past has never thought of us. to it, once pass is passed and thee is no point of re-calling it back. i wonder of people nowadays. they tend to throw the blame or mistake or even failure towards their past. they associate it with ideas or even experiences that has caused the things that they do now which appeared to be not meeting the standards. what has the past got to do with today? yes, i did not say that it could not affect you today, but the context is that why should the past be blamed for one's down?

* silently sits to himself*

people think that they are the most saddest thing, the most unfortunate person, the most unlucky thing that has ever happened to them. they feel that they have been succumbed into a great predicament and the 'credits' were given to the past. people see others as problem-free and happy-go-lucky. they feel that these lucky people are always out of way and never tastes the bitterness in life. they also believe that these people are just so free and are able to do anything they favor. to add more, they sometimes ask themselves or dreamed to be like them.

but the thing that they do not understand god is always fair and just. He knows when to test and when to reward a person. however He is not the topic nor the subject of matter. i believe none in this world does not a have a thought or two about the problems they face. let it be in finances, education, personalities, relationships, responsibilities. anything, but i know and i believe that everyone is this world does not lead a predicament-free life.

but when we ask..

"how come they laugh when i tear?"
"how come they can joke when i can't even laugh?"

"how come they take things as it is when i have too much to handle?"

"how come they are able to take 3 complete meals a day where i barely finish my lunch?"

"how come they know more things when i don't recognize learning or studying or even experiencing them?"

"how come they wake up everyday in the morning with a smile and i all see in the mirror is another typical day?"

"how come they go to bed having sweet wonderful dreams in peaceful sleep where i find it difficult even to sleep?" 

the answer lies within us. it is how we actually perceive these problems. it is how we get rid of this headache and most of all it is how we learn to live and grow with it. surprising it maybe, to actually live and grow with problems but if we take a look at it a little deeper, it is just plain understanding and maturing from the every problem you face. 

why should we tear when these problems are just tests from God. are we afraid to see the reality in life? as a person, we are made and created to have feelings of fear. i do agree, but if we were to be fearful of every challenges in life, then how come we are here today? how come we still survive in this 'living hell'?

why can't we laugh when these problems are haunting us. it has been a universal saying that, laughter is the best medicine. laugh it off, forget it for a day, laugh it loud and you shall see the problems eventually fading away. just laugh from he heart.

why should we feel stress with the too many things to handle? to be able to hold such great responsibilities is something that not everyone can do and yet you have took up the challenge.  so why envy the rest with few work? it is you who will mature more and learn even more.

why must you torture your body with hunger just because you don't feel like eating? you need the energy to think. you need the energy to live. you need the energy for tomorrow as no tomorrows stay the same throughout one's life.

why should you envy those who seems to know everything? you know where you stand and you know how much you have in you and how much more you need to pursue this challenge in life. therefore, stop hesitating, and grasp as much as you need.

why do you see every new day as the same? every new day is a new beginning. it is mark to show that no matter what your problems were, you still could get up the day after and still live. 

why you have sleepless nights when it is the night where the time to take your problems to a new stage. sleep to know that your day will be better tomorrow and not sleep to only see a typical day as any other days.

all in one, it is how we see things the way they are. why think over an over of  your problems where you just need to put a smile, a laughter, a little hope in them? they will help to resolve your problems and they will mature you into a better tougher person in life~

                                   

a day..

it was the last day
a day that was my last
a day that i id farewell
a day that i saw tears inside the heart
a day that i knew them
a day i grew to love them
a day that i would start missing them
a day that i would tear as i re-call them
a day that i have a moment of silence
a day that i know will never end
a day that i know will never fade
a day that i know where hopes were stored
a day that i know that love was spread
a day that i know a friend
a day that i shall not forget
a day that i shall not forget
a day that i shall not forget



*thinking deeply of our times together*

a journey right on course~

a person once said, "to love someone is to give all you have for the person whom you love"
but i say, "to love someone is to know that that particular person loves you too"

people talk about love proudly enough. they distinguish what is sincerity and puppy love. they share all they have, almost all they have with the ones whom they wish to share with, in this case, the person they love. they are willing to do anything.

crossing the widest busy road. swimming across the ocean. hiking up the highest peak in he world. and the tests goes on~ but being in love with someone is to love the person through the heart.what point is it if the person you chose to love ended up loving someone else? true enough, it is not in our heads to think of it, but if love is to give everything you have, why then is it shared? why should love be divided? why must it be broken down to categories? why and why and why?

youths nowadays succumb themselves in this disease but only to find out that a handful of them falls into the voodoos of love: separation. however, to break is of course not the matter. what becomes the point is, why regret the decision? or perhaps why feel sad of what has happened?

not being pessimistic but if a love is meant to last, then it shall prevail but if that love was never meant for us, then everything done to save it will never bring the pieces into one. releasing and letting go whatever we had shared is a task almost impossible, even close to never if the relationship has aged for quite a time, but it is NEVER impossible.

why tear for someone who does not worth for it?
why cut yourself for someone who will not see it anymore?
why still love him/her when he/she does not appreciate it?

girl/boy, you are still a rock star!!
girl/boy, you still have years to come!
girl/boy, the fish is not one, the flower is never one!
girl/boy, get out there and have fun!!!!

to love someone, is to know that both parties are willing to share everything, almost everything
to love someone is to know that both parties understand one another in and out
to love someone is to know that both parties are willing to sacrifice for each other
to love someone is to know that both parties never forgets to say "i love you"
to love someone is to know that both parties love each other despite of anything in between

most of all,

to love someone is to know that both parties are willing to make a change!



children of today,
youngsters of tomorrow,
teenagers to come,

loving someone is like steering the ship in the right course. lock the course headed as to target that one person  you see. set the sails as to set your moves. maintain the wheel of the ship so that it is in the right course as to make sure you love that person sincerely without any intentions. look out for ice boulders or rocks or even rough winds and tides to make sure your ship and her passengers are safe as to see to any conflicts that may rise and resolving them to bond you relationship even closer. lastly get your passengers save to ground and take a deep breath of relief after a huge responsibility as to keep your partner safe of every negative thoughts and beliefs. in that way your ship is always open for a new set of passengers and a new course whereas your love is always ready to live another life long journey together with that lucky person~

the fruit to choose

a friend is need is a friend in deed. what crosses you each time you see a person whom you know very well. a person whom you understand well enough, well enough to say at least. a person whom you realise that he or she will be there for you when you need him or her~

however sometimes we wonder..
how come we don't really know the particular person?
how come we fail to understand the person well enough, even as well as to talk about him/her?
how come we do not see him/her when we need them?

and so, as questions fill us, who is it to be blamed?

is it us who failed to ask more about that person?
is it us who was over confident with that relationship knowing that we know enough?
is it us who actually lost in the battle to keep up the relationship?

now and then, we see groups of people hanging out at the bowling alleys, grooving at the pubs, laughing over starbucks, screaming at karaoke sessions, and sharpening the wooden sticks (don't know what is it called) at snooker centers. we see them and what do we perceive?

FRIENDS

a friend once said "i don't believe in friendship"
"they never last"
"they share your laughter"
"but only to leave when the joke's over"

how come this happens when these people are actually called friends? what value does the word has? has the word dropped to such a level in which people sometimes laugh over the word and even mock about it. pessimistic you may say, but to one extend, i believe that that very friend of mine knows best. why laugh when you only know how to run? why joke when you do not laugh forever? why share secrets when you don't even intend to respect them?

the word has so much been humiliated. poor thing to the creator of these words! it is sad to get to know that the person you once trust was the person whom broke the trust. it is painful to get to know that your backstabber is the person you never will back stab. it is even more hurtful to get to know that that person is embarrassed with all that you both went through. 

but getting back to the point, the question that hunts us; "why?" we can only assume and draw conclusions to our own justification. the probability of getting to know the reason would somehow draw different drawbacks. at the end of the day, it us whom we  ourselves can blame.

"maybe it is me who thought i knew all about the person"
"maybe it is me who chose the wrong person to be linked"

"maybe it is me who always wanted more, not knowing the boundaries and limits to it"

we can only assume.

we can only suggest.

we can only think.

but we can never decide which is which.

to everyone out there, picking a friend is like picking a fruit. you see whether the fruit is ripe, similarly you see whether the person is comfortable with you. you feel the outer texture of the fruit to see whether it is soft or hard or just nice, similarly you see whether the person  fits you in most aspects you look into.you weigh the fruit in one hand to see whether is it ready to be eaten, similarly you see a person whether he or she understands and respects and after all that evaluation, you buy the fruit, similarly  you pick the person to be your friend.