Wednesday, September 22, 2010

perception,stereotypes,"self thoughts"

this little post is dedicated to whomever who reads this very post of course. it is also for those who seems to disgrace another in the topic of gender. it is for those who are stereotypes in cases regarding gender. but most of all this piece of message is dedicated to you people out there who thinks, describes, treats another person with th opposite gender qualities.

it all began wit the nick 'su'

a special friend decided to call him 'su' instead of his name as it was considered/ supposedly to be too long for them to pronounce, but i think it was not that long, i mean, a six letter name don't appear to be too long. however i grew to accept it.i grew to like it. growing to have fun wit a new nick, it had been a new start of a new episode. but soon, people both new and old begun questioning and judging this very nick.

" 'su' is sissy"
" 'su' is a girl's name"
" why did you put such a name?"
"i thought it was a girl, until you showed up"
"i was searching for a girl named 'su' until he said it's u"
" suresh sounds masculine, su sounds feminine"


and that was there the legend begun and tales unfolded, making everyone having a thought or two of a particular perception in which boys will be boys and girls will stay girls...

the debate of such perception has always been on one side. they go on to maintain the perception in that what is a girl's should not be a boy's and the other way round. the questions that these few people tend to ask but only to appear silent was never asked, but when asked, it is only to be outnumbered  by responses, answers, comments and glares. the point here is, why not?

ask yourself, why can't she do what he does?
ask yourself, why can't he have a name of what one calls to be feminine?

the answer lies within us. it is how you accept things as they are. it is how your perceive things as they are. but of all, the ultimate statement goes to perception of the people and how great do they spread their ideologies of self thoughts to others, influencing these minds making them to eventually grow and then pass on these 'self thought' thoughts.

people believe in things not just because they know that they should believe but because they must believe in order to be believed by the people themselves. however some appear to have thoughts of their own and those that contradict the majority are always justified. in the end, it is either they stand in their own beliefs or fall to the perception of the people. the power of numbers is indeed very influential but why not stand for your beliefs? why not fight for it? why not stay strong to it?

is it wrong to behave what the others do not?
is it wrong to be what the others are not?  
is it wrong to have a name whom the owner himself/herself approves but not the others?

at the end of the day, perception of the others still regain the thrones in everyone. almost everyone. but today, this very moment i say that no matter what you do or say or even act, we do not live for your eyes, thoughts, and minds. we live for the pride of our own. we live for the dignity that we hold. and on top of all that, we live for own selves and only ourselves.

sadly..

the debate of perception,stereotypes, and the "self thoughts" continues.....

6 comments:

Unknown said...

su!su!su!su!LOL.suresh is a long name,okay?

wakaka said...

haha! =.=!! this post is dedicated to u!! haha..without u, this post aso wunt wujud~ :) bt im hppy bcz this post is critizing "such" ppl~ ^.^

Unknown said...

haha.bangga.but,seriously,calling u suresh is weird for me now. HOHO

suresh lim keng leong said...

call me su~ ^.^ i find it beta! lol!

Anonymous said...

Hey..
Hmm, stereotyping for me, is just another form of grouping things together.. I do understand that people tend to prefer to be defined as individual but if that's the case, the reality would be unimaginable.

If people say 'Su' sounds sissy, for me that's unacceptable because they're judging you. But if they say 'I thought Su is a girl until you showed up', i think that's normal. We got to be able to make relations to get by, right? Su is usually related to girls' nickname. If you feel that the latter statement is a judgment, it rather reflects that you feel insecure by the nickname 'Su'.

As long as it doesn't have any negative connotation, let's not take it as a 'stereotyping'..
Just my 2cents. :)

suresh lim keng leong said...

hahaha~ well thats something you dunt get to read in reply t your posts. haha~ bt hey, thnx 4 ur thoughts. appreciated it~ do continue reading and comment ya?!! XD
THNX!!